Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.
By this we shall know that we are of the truth.

Our obedience will reassure our hearts whenever our hearts condemn us. Because God is greater than our heart, we therefore (in the consciousness that we are of the truth) shall calm our hearts before God, however much our heart may accuse us.[1] (Remember that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything including everything in our hearts).

Beloved, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and can approach him with boldness; and we receive from him whatever we ask, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him.

And this is his commandment, that we should believe in the name of his Son Jesus Christ and love one another, just as he has commanded us. All who keep his commandments abide in him, and he in them. And by this we know that he abides in us, by the Spirit which he has given us. (1 John 3:18-24)

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This is a notoriously confusing passage of Scripture when it comes to understanding a) how and why our hearts condemn us (false guilt or real guilt), b) what it means that God is bigger than our hearts (should this worry us or comfort us?), and c) what it means that we can ask for anything and get it. So, here we go.

Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. By this[2] we shall know that we are of the truth, and our obedience will reassure our hearts[3] before him whenever our hearts condemn us.[4] Because God is greater than our hearts[5], we therefore (in the consciousness that we are of the truth) shall calm our hearts before God, however much our heart may accuse us. (Remember that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything, including our hearts)[6].

When John wrote earlier (2:28-4:6) about how we can be confident, he said to "continue in Jesus" and "do what is right" (2:29; 3:7, 10), which is shown primarily by our love for others. Now he addresses what to do when our hearts (conscience) condemn us. There are at least two possibilities for what John means.[7]

#1. We could read this as our conscience is highlighting our genuinely wrong actions or inactions.[8] If that’s the case, our commitment to (not our perfection of) living in obedience to God’s truth is meant to reassure us.

“A Christian’s heart burdened with a sense of its own unworthiness forms an unfavourable opinion of the state of the soul, pronounces against its salvation. If we are conscious of practically loving the brethren, we can [see] this as evidence of the contrary, and give the heart ground to change its opinion, and to reassure itself.”[9]

This usage suggests our hearts are telling us we did something wrong, but the pattern of our life (not all the particulars), is intended to reassure us of our commitment (not our perfection).

#2. Other commentaries see it as closer to the idea of us beating ourselves up unfairly when we fail. Self-condemnation can be brutal. If that is the case, then John is talking about that insidious voice of despair and condemnation that keeps whispering, “God doesn’t want you. You failed again. You just aren’t good enough to deserve love or respect. Why keep trying? Maybe you should quit.” Even though imperfection is to be expected on this side of heaven, it’s easy to run with the fact that we have fallen short of it and run ourselves into the ground.

Either way, we must remember that God knows everything.

Because God is superior to our consciences in being omniscient, we may (when our love is sincere and fruitful), persuade our consciences before Him to acquit us. Our consciences through imperfect knowledge may be either too strict[10] or too easy[11] with us: God cannot be either, for He knows and weighs all… He is a more perfect judge than our heart can be.[12]

When John writes that God knows our hearts, he doesn’t just mean the good parts even we don’t see. He means even the bad parts we don’t see. I mean, our proper sense of guilt and/or our self-condemnation probably only scratches the surface.

I believe John intends it to be both sobering and comforting in that the worst that is in us is known to God, and still He cares for us and loves us as His children. Our discovery has been an open secret to Him all along. But God sees more: God sees into depths even we have not dared to explore.

I was talking with a guy who works in surgery, and he was telling me how people under certain kinds of anesthesiology will act out in a way that shows the real them. It’s like the drugs take away all the veils, and the real them emerges. They may swear like sailors, or flirt with the nurses, or just be chill. ‘The deep’ emerges.

I came out of the anesthesia of knee surgery once fighting with everyone. They had to restrain me. When they told me, the doctor said, “Have you been under stress?” Yep. That’s apparently a typical response. I have never been in a fight in my life, but something violent was nesting inside of me.

Perhaps it is that kind of image John is tapping into when he reminds us that God knows everything about our hearts - and he still loves us and calls us His child. We beat ourselves up for the failures that lie on the surface; God sees what is deep down in his soul and does not beat us up for it. He works to clean us up as an act of love, not condemnation.[13] He bore upon himself the weight of our condemnation so we don’t have to.

As the guys at Southside Rabbi pointed out in their last episode,[14] Jesus experienced what we experience in life, but there is one thing he experienced that his followers will never have to: the wrath of God falling on a person for their sin.[15] We partly know ourselves and loathe ourselves; God fully knows us and fully loves us.

“He knows all things; on the one hand the light and grace against which we have sinned, on the other the reality of our repentance and our love. It was to this infallible omniscience that S. Peter appealed, in humble distrust of his own feeling and judgment; ‘Lord, You know all things; You know that I love you’ (John 21:17).[16]

I think this translation from the Cambridge Bible For Schools And Colleges captures all of this discussion well.

‘By loving our brethren in deed and truth we come to know that we are God’s children and have His presence within us, and are enabled to meet the disquieting charges of conscience. For, if conscience condemns us, its verdict is neither infallible nor final. We may still appeal to the omniscient God, whose love implanted within us is a sign that we are not condemned and rejected by Him.’

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Beloved, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God and can approach him with boldness; and we receive from him whatever we ask, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him.

This is the goal: to approach the throne of God with boldness. When we believe we are under the cloud of condemnation from ourselves or from God, we will not be bold. We will want to hide.

As a kid, I remember that when I disobeyed my parents, I would hide. When my disobedience was known and dealt with, I didn’t. In fact, it was often freeing. A weight was gone. I think this might be the idea.

What if we lived every moment in the freedom of knowing that nothing is hidden from God? There is no reason to try to hide something on the way to the cross. There is no reason not to be honest about our sins as a child of God. God already knows. He still loves us.

How is it possible that we can approach God with this kind of boldness?

First, believing in Jesus Christ, that the death of God incarnate has saved us from the punishment we deserve, and that by committing our lives to him we can have eternal life that begins now and carries on (John 3:16-18). This is characterized by becoming more and more like Jesus.
Second, committing to keeping his commands: Love God and love others. Love is the expression of true faith.[17] This is not about perfection; it’s about direction. What is our trajectory?
Third, if our hearts (rightly) bring us godly sorrow or (unfairly) condemn us, we remember that God knows even worse things about us than we do; He anticipated it; He took care of it; He loves us more strongly than we can imagine.

Now, he’s going to deal with us as a loving Father, which means a) there might be practical consequences we can’t avoid, and b) he’s going to love us too much to let us stay untransformed in that sin. But we didn’t surprise him. We didn’t suddenly go, “God, I don’t think you know this about me, but…” Nope. He brought us into His family knowing we would be at this point before we did. Be bold before God.

Now, about that “getting what you want.”

This isn’t a formula for God becoming a cosmic Pez dispenser for our every whim. John is clear: if our will aligns with God’s will, when we ask what we will we are asking God to do what He already wills.

“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.” (Romans 8:5)
"Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh" (Galatians 5:16).

So, let’s say we are at a place where we approach God boldly. And let’s say we request something that is just not what God has in mind. We know what follows thanks to the disciples. Mark records the following story (Mark 10: 35-45).

Then James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came to him. “Teacher,” they said, “we want you to do for us whatever we ask.” “What do you want me to do for you?” he asked. They replied, “Let one of us sit at your right and the other at your left in your glory.” “You don’t know what you are asking,” Jesus said. “Can you drink the cup I drink or be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with?”
“We can,” they answered. Jesus said to them, “You will drink the cup I drink and be baptized with the baptism I am baptized with, but to sit at my right or left is not for me to grant. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared.” When the ten heard about this, they became indignant with James and John.
Jesus called them together and said, “You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Okay, kudos to the disciples for boldness. Notice Jesus doesn’t smack them down. He patiently explains that (like so many things we pray) they have no idea what they are asking. There is lot that will happen on the way to fulfilling that prayer request that is beyond their ability to know. As one country song notes, sometimes we should thank God for unanswered prayer. More importantly, that request did not align with God’s will.

And then he teaches them how to ask for something in his will: Don’t ask for power and prestige in the eyes of people. Ask to be a servant. Ask how you might give your life for others. THAT’S a prayer that’s always in God’s will. This is the secret to powerful prayer: praying what is in God’s will to grant.

“To keep His commandments is to abide in Him. It is to live in close, vital intimacy with the Savior. When we are thus in fellowship with Him, we make His will our own will. By the Holy Spirit, He fills us with the knowledge of His will. In such a condition, we would not ask for anything outside the will of God. When we ask according to His will, we receive from Him the things we ask for.”[18]

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While the Jewish community tended to think of the presence of the Spirit as rare; Christians began teaching that God gave his Spirit as an indwelling presence to all of his children (Acts 2.17–18; Romans 5:5; 8:14-16).[19] Whereas before, God’s people would have asked the Holy Spirit to show up, now they simply thanked him for being present within them.

2 Corinthians 1:21-22 “Now He who establishes us with you in Christ and anointed us is God, 22 who also sealed us and gave [us] the Spirit in our hearts as a pledge.”
Ephesians 1:13-14 “In Him, you also, after listening to the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation–having also believed, you were sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit of promise, who is given as a pledge of our inheritance, with a view to the redemption of [God’s own] possession, to the praise of His glory.”
John 14:15-18 "If you love Me, keep My commandments. And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever— the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you.”
Romans 8:15-16 “For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!” The Spirit Himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God.”
Acts 5:32 “And we are His witnesses to these things, and so also is the Holy Spirit whom God has given to those who obey Him."[20]

Meanwhile the Old Testament told us what the Spirit of God would do (and this brings us back to what John has been writing about for this entire chapter):

"And I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will be careful to observe My ordinances.” (Ezekiel 36:27)

Bede paraphrases with a phrase I really like: “Let God be a home to thee, and be thou a home of God.”[21]

That’s a fine goal for 2021.

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[1] Translation suggested by Meyer’s NT Commentary

[2] “The construction and punctuation of what follows is doubtful; also the reading in the first and second clauses of 1 John 3:20. Certainty is not attainable, and to give all possible variations of reading and rendering would take up too much space. The conclusions adopted here are given as good and tenable, but not as demonstrably right.” (Cambridge Bible For Schools And Theology)

[3] kardía – heart; "the affective center of our being" and the capacity of moral preference (volitional desire, choice); "desire-producer that makes us tick" i.e our "desire-decisions" that establish who we really are. (HELPS Word Studies)

[4] “Accuse us with unfavorable prejudice.” (Vincent’s Word Studies)

[5] “A more perfect judge of our hearts than we are.” (Cambridge Bible For Schools And Colleges)

[6] See 1 Chronicles 28:9. “He knows all things; on the one hand the light and grace against which we have sinned, on the other the reality of our repentance and our love. It was to this infallible omniscience that S. Peter appealed, in humble distrust of his own feeling and judgment; ‘Lord, Thou knowest all things; Thou knowest that I love Thee’ (John 21:17). It is the reality and activity of our love (1 John 3:18-19) which gives us assurance under the accusations of conscience.” (Cambridge Bible For Schools And Colleges) “God is greater than our heart. It is asked whether this means that he is more merciful or more rigorous. Neither the one nor the other. It means that, although our conscience is not infallible, God is. Our hearts may be deceived; he cannot be. He knoweth all things. An awful thought for the impenitent, a blessed and encouraging thought for the penitent, He knows our sins; but he also knows our temptations, our struggles, our sorrow, and our love. 1 John 3:20” (Pulpit Commentary)

[7] “The old controversy is, whether God is called greater than our heart as forgiving or as judging; the former is the view of Thomas Angl., Luther, Bengel, Morus, Russmeyer, Spener, Noesselt, Steinhofer, Rickli, Baumgarten-Crusius, Sander, Besser, Düsterdieck, Erdmann, Myrberg, Ewald, Brückner, Braune, etc.; the latter is the view of Calvin, Beza, Socinus, Grotius, a Lapide, Castalio, Hornejus, Estius, Calovius, Semler, Lücke, Neander, Gerlach, de Wette, Ebrard, etc.” (Meyer’s NT Commentary)

[8] If that’s the case “condemnation” is another way of saying “godly sorrow that leads to repentance.” (2 Corinthians 7:10) The only other time this word is used outside of this passage is by Paul in Galatians 2, where he “condemns” Peter in Antioch because of something Peter did wrong. This is a different word than we Paul uses in Romans when he talks about “no condemnation” for those in Christ (Romans 8:1). That has to do with the results of doing something wrong, not if someone did something wrong or not.

[9] Quoted in Cambridge Bible Commentary

[10] The danger of Option B. It is sooo easy to see ourselves more severely than we should.

[11] The danger of Option A. It is sooo easy to give ourselves a pass and see ourselves more highly than we ought (Romans 12:3).

[12] Cambridge Bible For Schools And Colleges

[13] Good insights from the Expositor’s Greek New Testament reflected in this section.

[14] Season 2 Episode 12: “Floyd, Chauvin, and the War On Empathy.”

[15] 2 Corinthians 5 - 19 It is central to our good news that God was in the Anointed making things right between Himself and the world. This means He does not hold their sins against them….21 He orchestrated this: the Anointed One, who had never experienced sin, became sin for us so that in Him we might embody the very righteousness of God.”

[16] Cambridge Bible For Schools And Colleges

[17] HT Believer’s Bible Commentary

[18] Believer’s Bible Commentary

[19] NRSV Cultural Backgrounds Study Bible

[20] I understand this to mean that the act of obedience which inaugurates the presence of the Holy Spirit in our lives is surrendering our lives to the lordship of Jesus and acknowledging the saving nature of his death on the cross (salvation); this verse and others seem to at least suggest that the expression of the Holy Spirit’s power (not presence!) and the abundance of fruit in our lives is in some sense associated with our commitment to obedience.

[21] The sign what we have arrived at this divine housing arrangement is a commitment to obedience (1 John 1:6, 1 John 2:4; 1 John 2:6; 1 John 2:29, 1 John 3:6-7; 1 John 3:9). And that obedience is made possible by the Holy Spirit, the ‘life’ of God dwelling in us, His children.